Tracy McMillan, author of I Love You and I’m Leaving You Anyway, on tour June/July 2010

Posted By on April 29, 2010

About I Love You and I’m Leaving You Anyway

I love You

Television writer Tracy McMillan managed to work her way into a killer Hollywood career—a privileged world of pool houses, premieres, and big-time producer deals—despite being the daughter of a fur-coat-wearing, El Dorado–driving, smooth-talking pimp named Freddie. But success couldn’t save her from the pattern of self-destructive choices—stemming from her history with her father—that would shape all of her romantic relationships. I Love You and I’m Leaving You Anyway is her comic, tragic, and ultimately victorious story, the riveting true tale of how having a father obsessed with women made her a woman obsessed with men.

And I’m Leaving You

Blessed with beauty and brains, Tracy had no problem attracting men. Marrying her first husband (a kind, stable MBA) before she was out of her teens, she quickly discovered the romantic contradiction that so many women face: the “right” kind of men feel wrong. And the wrong ones feel so, so right. Alternating between the nice guys she knew she should want, and the unavailable men who were compelling, Tracy found herself repeating the hurt that began when the man who loved her the most, her father, left her for prison when she was just three years old. Freddie’s absence meant a childhood filled with foster homes, a temperamental stepmother, and near constant upheaval. It took three marriages, the birth of a son, and, most important, resolving her relationship with her dad for Tracy to discover the truth about herself—a truth that finally set her free.


This provocative, insightful, and humorous memoir isn’t a “woe is me” story of what went wrong. I Love You and I’m Leaving You Anyway is a story of what’s gone right—one woman’s journey to creating a fulfilling life and raising a son who taught her everything she needed to know about men, love, and, of course, herself. Heartwarming, funny, and unflinchingly real, it is an inspiring testament to the power of change that proves we can all grow from even our most flawed relationships.

About Tracy

Tracy McMillan is a television writer and memoirist, most recently on the Emmy Award–winning AMC series Mad Men. Previously, she wrote on Showtime’s United States of Tara, ABC’s Life on Mars, and NBC’s Journeyman. She’s also developing an as-yet-untitled series with Dreamworks Television. I Love You and I’m Leaving You Anyway is Tracy’s first book.

Born and raised in Minneapolis, Tracy spent years in the foster-care system. After graduating from the University of Utah with a broadcast-journalism degree, she spent more than a decade writing and producing television news for outlets such as NBC Nightly News, KNBC-TV, and Access Hollywood. Tracy’s articles and essays have appeared in a number of print publications and websites. She is a regular performer at Sit-n-Spin on the Comedy Central stage in Los Angeles.

She is the mother of a 13-year-old boy, and lives in Los Angeles.

Her not-so-secret ambition is to have a talk show.

Connect with Tracy on Twitter: @tracymcmillan.

Tracy’s TLC Book Tours TOUR STOPS

Tuesday, July 13th: Rundpinne

Monday, July 19th: Til We Read Again

Tuesday, July 27th: Mocha Dad

Thursday, July 29th: Silver & Grace

Wednesday, August 4th: It’s All About Balance

Thursday, August 5th: Moms of Hue

Tuesday, August 10th: Speaking of Witch

Thursday, August 12th: Beastmomma

Tuesday, August 17th: Single Mama NYC

Wednesday, August 18th: Mely Speaks

Thursday, August 26th: The Little Reader


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